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the weighty issue
I had been going to the gym regularly (5-6 days a week) for almost three weeks now. I have lost weight, although not much but I feel good and know that my body is firmer than before, especially around the *jiggly* midsection area.
Came office friend #1 who came back from her one month vacation in her home country:
“Did you put on weight?”
How did that happen? I was not even slouching. How can people not see the difference from a month back to now? I am not paper thin but I’m certainly more fit now than a few weeks back!
Then I met friend #2 at a mall after months of not seeing each other (she works in a different building).
“You put on a little weight, honey.”
Unlike friend #1, she did not ask if I put on weight. She threw in a declarative sentence saying I really did. You know what’s the most disappointing part? Both of them are bigger than I am, both of them never even set foot on a gym and eats more than I do.
How can I stay composed with those kind of remarks?
It’s very easy to get discouraged with the comments I received lately. Imagine the hard work I put through working out and still being told fat unfit but I am putting it in a better perspective.
I am working out yet they still see me otherwise, what if I don’t?
This writing exercise is fueled by the writing prompt “composed” at Sunday Scribblings.
These people are pretty rude, don’t you think?
If anyone says something like this to me, I would probably say,
“You know, actually I have lost some weight, if you really must know. I also have been working out. I feel badly that you felt you had to point this out to me. It’s really hurt my feelings.”
Yes, they are rude. I think weight is a very sensitive issue and should not be pointed out to a person, especially in public. The thing is, people in my work place only say two things and it’s all about weight. They will tell you, hey you lost weight or you gained. Oh well!
Man that is RUDE!!!! I don’t know who they think they are to say something like that. Not proper.
I would replay with “you must have bad memory. I have actually lost weight”
I can’t imagine anyone being that rude! Your revenge will be when you lose enough more weight that they become envious. Maybe they already ARE envious and that that was their reason to say those rude things - to boost their own egos.
Unbelievable!! Are these friends of yours or just acquaintances? The fact is, these folks did notice something different about you, and not knowing exactly what, probably said the usual (most people DO gain weight); not very perceptive people. I’m so sorry you had to deal with this.
people can be so crass… i would say try and not even pay them any mind… but in reality i know how difficult that is…….
Perhaps consider their comments as noticing a difference, but didn’t think about what they were saying. A slip up? I would try to think this way and just not dwell too much on it. Not worth it.
Keep your goal in sight and long for the day when “they eat their words” so to speak!
Gemma
Jen,
Well, at first I thought they were my FRIENDS but I guess they’re just acquaintances (we all work for the same company) because friends knows what’s going to hurt you and these two people actually don’t know what they said is hurtful for me.
Anyway, I chose not to mind them and just concentrate on working hard at the gym - not for their sake but mine. I still have a long way to go and a 4 month deadline!
Good grief. What’s with people? Amazing. Doubt they meant anything, just mindless chatter. I doubt they even thought it might sound (like it it does to me) like jealous carping… Congratulations on following through with the gym - I really have to force myself and lately have considered dumping it but then I slog on. Good for you!!!!!
People can be so hurtful when they are jealous. Keep it up and remain composed!
People are so cruel! Big Hugs!
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