What girls do for beauty
pristine September 15th, 2008Pristine ears are not pierced. Turning 5 years old this December, she is the only girl in my home town who has no earrings. My mother kept on asking what keeps me from beautifying my daughter by piercing her ears and buying a cute stud to decorate it. After all, in the Philippines, it is a norm for little girls to be pierced at a very young age. I had my ear pierced when I was barely two months old. God, I bet I really screamed much that time!
Living in Japan, I was surprised to see school girls with not pierced ears. My mother in-law and her mom don’t wear earrings too. I asked M why and he said it is not in their culture to mutilate body parts. What a word. So we went on with our lives with the ear piercing issue out. Pristine never questioned me about it because all her classmates don’t wear earrings(in her school in Japan). Everything was peaceful until…
We travelled to the Philippines for vacation and she noticed that everyone her age has a bling in their ears. She started to ask me why she has none and that she wants too. Here in Dubai, school children from different nationalities (except Japanese) all have their ears pierced. The “why I have none, mom?” inquisition accelerated on a daily basis.
I bought earrings at Claire’s in Japan during our vacation there. The ones you can clip on your ears! They had sizes for children so I bought two. She was delighted! She and a newly found bestfriend, Melody wore it for more than an hour and gamely posed for pictures:
Melody’s dad is British and believes that having her ears pierced should be a decision Melody should make for herself (pretty much the statement M said about Pristine too). But look at them, they both looked so cute with the little shiny blings on their ears!
But after a while, they both came to me and asked the clip earrings to be removed. When I took it off, it left a mark on their ears, a clear mark that looks really painful! The clip part was heavily etched on their ear lobes - but they didn’t complain. See they were even smiling in the photo!
September 15th, 2008 at 9:27 am
I am just like you. I don’t want my daughter’s ear pierced until she is ready for it. My ears were done at a very young age but I haven’t worn then in a long time, almost 30 yrs now, so I see no point in pushing societies ideas on her. If she wants it then she can tell me and we will talk about it.
September 16th, 2008 at 4:41 am
wafa talaga ng baby mo ^^
September 16th, 2008 at 5:45 am
look at P’s picture, she really knows how to project!
in few years, she’ll be dalagita na.
i had my ear pierced when i was still a baby and i’ve always liked wearing earrings when i got older. mas feeling babae ako
September 17th, 2008 at 9:51 pm
What a great story to share. I felt the same way about my girls. I didn’t want to do them as babies, but allow them to decide for themselves. I figured I had planty of time before this, but my three old keep begging me to get them so I let her. She did cry when they put them in (I made sure they did both at the same time) but then she loved them! Now my two year old keeps asking me when she is going to have earrings like Mommy and Shannon. They grow up WAY TOO FAST!!!